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Lies, Truths, Untruths and Knowing the Difference…

Ask yourself a few questions:

How many lies have you bought into?

How many untruths have you taken on as your own?

What have you said you can’t do because of something you believe to be true?

What have you not done because of something you fear?

What are you looking outside of yourself to fix?

I’ve come to shed another layer of myself recently and a lot of it was to do with the lies I’d bought into over the years. Mainly the lies wrapped around my idea of family and who I was to my family. I’ve been told I’ve got issues and baggage and to be frank according to those I chose to be around, rather fucked up.

Now first of all, that’s an interesting point of view. Second, that says as much about those saying it as it does me. Third and most importantly, if I chose to take that on as truth, as my truth then what opportunities or possibilities was I allowing to pass by because I was choosing to be as f’ed up as people said I was…

Think about it.

I’ll ask again.

What lies or untruths have you taken on as your own? There are tons out there. There are millions of points of view and judgments that we can take on as our truth and this is exactly what prevents us from stepping into our true, authentic, beautiful, limitless selves!

Who have you identified as because of lies you’ve bought into? What are you not doing that is true to you?

We can start to let go of these untruths by looking at everything as an interesting point of view. Everything is an interesting point of view. Your views, everyone elses, it’s all an interesting point of view.

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be – something to remember…

Remember the difference between what is light and what is heavy… The more you tap into that the more awareness will grow from it. If something is true for you it will feel light, if it is not true for you it will feel heavy and cause your energy (in and/or around you) to react in some way (keep in mind it is different for everyone). You can ask this all the time, I find that using this tool exercises your knowing and your awareness. Just feel the energy of the situation and see if that energy feels light or heavy.

Never ever ever question your knowing. Now I don’t mean what your ego thinks it knows, I mean what your awareness knows. You know those things you just know? Some refer to it as a gut feeling, others say it is being intuitive. Whatever it is, those times you just know something? Don’t question it. Actually I would even go to the extent of saying that it’s in your best interest to listen to and use your awareness.

Remember that everything you see in others is a reflection of yourself or an aspect of your own consciousness… There will be days when I see lots of beautiful people, there will be days where I see lots of angry people… Either way, those I see are just reflections of me… It’s a lot more difficult to judge people when you look at everyone and everything as being a part of you.

So, what lies or untruths have you taken on as your own, and more importantly, what lies and untruths are you willing to let go of right now?

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When A Shit Storm Arises…

What is it that makes us think our trust is being tested?

Let me start at the beginning.

I am a firm believer in letting things happen as they should happen. Knowing that things will work out exactly as they’re supposed to. I am a believer of acting upon your intuition and trusting your gut, also in the law of attraction – put it out there and it will come. Ask for it and it will show up – maybe not as you expected, but it will show up.

So when a shit storm arises and it’s a little bit more challenging to sit comfortably in that really uncomfortable place and trust rather than freak, I mean jump up and force blood out of stones just to feel like something, anything is happening; what is the best way to go about letting the storm pass?

Since I am currently in this space I can only pass on what I know and what I’ve been told. Let’s start with what doesn’t aid the process:

Coping mechanisms, those that do not nurture, heal or feed the body, mind or spirit. These coping mechanisms (you know which ones) create a distraction. When I’m going through something uncomfortable, I used to reach for things that enabled me to escape the feelings I was experiencing. As much as this works in the moment as soon as you’re out of the haze it’s still waiting for you to be dealt with it.

Burying one’s head in the sand: Tried and tested and unfortunately it does nothing to help the situation. As I just mentioned, it may work in the moment but all of those uncomfortable feelings will be exactly where you left them when you decide to return to reality.

Emotional reactions: Now I’ve said that emotional reactions generally don’t help the process to move forward, but not allowing yourself to release or express yourself with your emotions can do the same thing. So, finding balance between the two is key here. Release when you feel to release but don’t do it for longer than you need to. My emotions tend to come out of my eyes in the form of tears, it is something I learnt to do a long time ago. No matter the occasion 97% of the time I will cry. Yet there is a difference between allowing yourself to release knowing it is a release and wallowing in self pity. In my reality, if I don’t release those feelings they bleed into other areas. I become angry at everything and overreact, I lose my balanced, objective self. Releasing is like resetting and preventing that spillage, but there is a difference between that and the pity party or jumping down that rabbit hole of depression.

Now to the things that I’ve found really help:

Being present: As cliché as this may sound and as many times as we’ve heard it – it is true. There’s even a science behind it (there’s an amazing Ted Talk video if you don’t believe me). Going from moment to moment, opening yourself to receiving as much as you can in that moment and being grateful for it helps.

Which leads me to gratitude. The societies we live in (especially the western ones) teach us to yearn for more. We constantly crave for more than what we have be it materially or otherwise so rarely do we think about stopping to give thanks for the awesome things we already have. There are so very many things to be grateful for!

If you’re willing, I’d like to propose a challenge. I challenge you to write 50 or 100 things you’re grateful for. Let me know how that goes and more importantly, how you feel after!

Asking questions: Questions open up possibilities so ask them. “What if…..” or “what would it be like to….” or “what would it take for…”. What if you were to ask for more than material things? What if we asked for conscious change within ourselves and our societies What if we asked for growth and evolution, possibilities and opportunity?

One more thing; ask if it is yours. Why should we go through these emotional tornados and purges if we don’t have to? Remember to ask if what you’re thinking, feeling and experiencing is yours and if it isn’t simply return it to sender.

Before I finish up, I must take the opportunity to show gratitude for all of you. Although I write to share and help others, this is a release and it is nurturing and it is part of my process. So I am grateful, incredibly grateful to you wonderful you for taking the time to join me along this journey, send me love or comment or give me feedback. I think this is part of what connects us, it is how we grow closer as a community and it is a beautiful, beautiful thing!

Sending each one of you love and light, and as a friend of mine said to me today;

“Sending light and love your way, you know how we do, all day, every day. Namaste.”

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xx C xx

 


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Say Nay! Then Say Yay! (Part 1)

You know that tiny (or large) voice in your head that gives you those lists of reasons why you shouldn’t / won’t / can’t do things?

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of that voice is? Think about it! Once you have chosen to take on that voice and make it your reality, what happens?

I know what happens to me! Those thoughts become the perfect reason not to do whatever it is I’m thinking of! And let’s face it a lot of ideas, I’d even go to say the majority of ideas we have are pretty amazing!

How convenient is it for us to have a fantabulous idea and then not carry it out because that voice creeps up behind your idea, telling you all of the reasons you can’t do it. That great, wondrous idea is now buried, under all of those heavy, doubtful, reasons.

For example; I’m a photographer (amongst other things). I want to put on an exhibition. Now if I had buried this idea when it was born I wouldn’t get to showcase my work, meet amazing open and creative spirits,  or step further into my greatness! If I choose the voice in my head that says horrid things like ‘no one will buy your work’, ‘no one will care’, ‘there are so many people out there better than you’ or any of the other cruel, soul crushing things it whispers, I would never do anything! Let alone get out of bed!

Instead I say ‘Nay!’ People will buy my work because they connect with my work! And they will connect because I am connected to my work! They will care because I care and there is no better or worse, there is only different! Then I blow raspberries at the voice and flick my hair as I turn and skip towards my dreams and my greatness with glee!

Let’s look at another example. This is one I’ve witnessed too many times to count. The conversation goes something like this: Friend: “I’m so __________ about/of your travels. I think that it’s _________. I wish I could do that, it’s been a dream of mine for years.” Me: “Then why don’t you?” Friend: “Oh I can’t/shouldn’t/won’t ________________.” And before they’ve even begun they’ve killed and buried something they’ve been dreaming about doing for years.

Does killing a dream even make sense?

Enter the lesson: Doubt is a distraction. It offers you a way out from the uncomfortable process of stepping into your greatest self.

When you have one of those light bulb moments and it feels all light and makes you jump and tingle with glee, step into it! Just do it (yes, I believe I just quoted Nike)! Figure out a way to do it and go for it!

Think of all the amazing things we could achieve if only we stopped talking ourselves out of the great ideas we have.

I’m going to jump on the bandwagon and see where it takes me. I’m going to write a list (which I will post online a little later), a bucket list if you will, of all the things I’ve wanted to do or dreamed of and all the crazy ideas I’ve killed. Then one by one, or two by two I’m going to do them. And I promise to keep you posted! Will you do the same? Will you let me know how it goes too? I’ll even give you my email! beyoubemagical@gmail.com email me! I want to hear your stories! We can inspire and motivate and conquer that voice of doubt and fear together!

Horaaaah!!!

Sending you all courage, love, creative juices and really big hugs!

C.